I (27F) recently traveled to Barcelona with a friend (27M) whom I’ve known for two years. We always got along well and shared similar interests, so I expected this trip to be fun. Instead, it left me feeling uncomfortable and questioning our friendship.
As soon as we arrived, his behavior changed. He was easily irritated, walked away while I was asking for directions or talking with strangers, showed zero interest in things I enjoyed. When I asked why, he dismissed it, saying "I’ve always been like this with family and friends, no one complained before." It made me feel unsafe like I was traveling with a stranger rather than a friend I could rely on.
The worst part was at dinner when he covered the bill (we always reimbursed each other), then suddenly ranted about how "girls use men for money." I was stunned knowing he hadn't ever dated anyone. And We had always split costs fairly, yet he started spewing things he had read online about women taking advantage of men. It made me feel disgusted. The next morning, I set clear boundaries: we’d split bills at the table, and if he wasn’t enjoying the trip, we could do things separately.
From that moment, he completely shut down blank face, no engagement, no enjoyment. I gave him space, thinking maybe he was stressed about his assignments, but even after finishing them, he stayed distant. I felt like I was traveling alone.
Strangely, as soon as we returned home, he flipped back to the friend I knew, laughing, joking, and acting normal. When I pointed it out, he just said, "You’re right, I feel different," but wouldn’t explain.
Now, I feel uneasy about our friendship. His behavior on the trip made me uncomfortable, and I don’t think I can trust him the same way. AITA for wanting to end the friendship?
By - Witty_Scene6615
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